Everyone is born fragile.
Love or patriotism, these two extremely noble emotions in the popular sense, are actually a manifestation of man's dependence on the "other" and a revelation of the fragility of human nature - whether it is for the protagonist "he" in "The Sinking", or for all of us.
"Xiaoyaoyou" says: "Fu Liezi walked against the wind, calmly and well. He turned around after five days in ten days. He brought blessings to countless people. Although he was exempt from walking, he still had something to look forward to. "That is, people cannot exist in isolation without material support——Even if Liezi could ride on the wind, he still could not get rid of his dependence on the wind and clouds. This is talking about people’s dependence on material things, which is certainly a sign of people’s fragility.However, I think that people have a deeper sense of inner dependence. Psychology thinks,“Human beings are born with the need for love and belonging, That is, the individual’s need for affiliation, love, friendship and freedom from loneliness. "In this sense, we are born with a need for a powerful "other" to settle our hearts.
The so-called "other" is both human and object.
Love is the need and dependence on another individual, the desire to have the support and assistance of another person (often the opposite sex), to draw on the strength of two people in material life to make life happier, and to have a firm supporter of one's own ideals and opinions and a listener, understander, resonance and deep sympathizer of one's own emotions on the spiritual level, giving one's own soul a paradise to live and settle down. The Western practice of "killing the father and marrying the mother" does not seem to be love in the traditional sense, but it is an example of people, especially men, being dependent on the opposite sex.
No one can deny the "self"'s need for love, but "his" love in "The Fall" is an unusual deformity. He is sexually depressed, masturbates, voyeurs, and even fornicates. In fact, this just shows his fragility: the natural desire for love arises from the "id", and although the desire for women is regulated and blocked by the "superego", he can never get rid of the drive of love (that is, attachment to the ideal "her"). The fierce struggle between the "id" and the "superego" eventually leads to the split of personality, which points to death. It can be said that without the extreme need and dependence on love, he would not sink.
Patriotism is “having a deep emotion for the homeland where one grew up, having a natural closeness to the culture that one has known since childhood, and then rising to love for one’s own country”. Motherland is another“Other”, a more powerful and magnificent but more abstract other. However, in fact, this article has nothing to do with patriotism. On the way to death, he shouted: "Motherland, motherland! My death is all caused by you! Get rich soon! Be strong!" It is not true patriotism, but his personal subjective involvement and elevation. He just needs a strong other in his heart to give him a sense of security and support. In the final analysis, he just loves himself. The motherland only gives him an excuse for his inability to escape and his ultimate death. If it is really the motherland that caused him, then wouldn’t the tens of millions of Chinese students overseas be left with the fate of death? His tragedy is actually a tragedy of personality and an individual phenomenon.
A true patriot starts from the present, starts from himself, is responsible for the country, is full of care for his motherland, is full of enthusiasm for his compatriots, strives for self-improvement, and does not just blame the decline of the motherland.
In fact, judging from the text, the nature he indulges in is undoubtedly an other. He wants to be in the wild world, pursue the original interest of life, long to get rid of the noise of the world, temporarily put aside the pain, and completely place his whole body under the protection and understanding of nature - to support his lonely and depressed soul.
Although we cannot break away from the barriers of human nature, and we all care about others consciously or unconsciously, we must not become overly dependent on others. I think this is alsoYuSir, may he accidentally teach us today. In fact, his naked exposure of dependence psychology profoundly reveals the psychological condition of most young people today. Most young people today were born in20In the 1980s and 1990s, in terms of family status, most children were only children. They were easily cared for and even doted on by their parents and grandparents from an early age. The seeds of caring for others and longing for protection were planted deep in their characters. This is not difficult to explain the phenomenon of "cheating on the elderly" in society and "it is not uncommon for couples to come and go on campus." Even some people who claim to be "independent enough" mostly focus on the narrow range around them and judge with their own narrow vision.
We cannot change the characteristics of human nature that desire protection and attachment to others, and we cannot get rid of the fragility of the human self. However, we should at least consciously recognize our own desires and needs, consciously minimize our dependence on others, and become as independent as possible.
